Part of me is pretty nostalgic, and I tend to think of myself as being someone who likes to keep a good friendship going. With all the big things going on in our lives right now -- moving to Chattanooga, starting a business, getting ready to have a baby -- I have been thinking about getting in touch with some old friends. I'd like to hear what's going on in their lives, and fill them in on what the years have brought into my life as well.

As I was searching for one friend's email address, the thought occured to me that I am utterly findable on the internet. If you go to Google.com and type in "John Hawbaker" this weblog comes up as the very first result. If anyone I've ever known wanted to get in touch with me, they could do so in a matter of minutes. Why then am I going to the trouble of trying to find them? On the other hand, are they thinking the same thing in reverse?

In particular, this morning I was trying to find the email address of a guy who was in my wedding party. This was three and a half years ago, and I know we've both moved a couple of times since then, but I didn't even get invited to his wedding last fall. The only reason I found out what the date was is hearing it from his ex-girlfriend who I ran into at a restaurant. Am I being a "good friend" by assuming he just didn't know where to send an invitation, or am I being naive? Why do I even care three years later?