I go by my middle name. I'm neither proud nor ashamed of the fact. That's the way its been since day one.
While I don't recommend making your children go by their middle name, I don't understand why people make such a big deal out of it: I can't tell you how many times people have acted like that was the single weirdest thing they had ever heard of. I admit, it's not the norm. It's probably about as uncommon as left-handedness. It does not make me a freak.
It does not bother me at all for someone who does not know me to call me Sarah. I expect to be called Sarah at the doctor's office or the DMV or in an e-mail from someone who doesn't know me (my e-mail address is sarahchristin@hotmail). Every now and then, people think it's funny to call me Sarah, and that's fine (it's not really funny, but it doesn't bother me).
The only thing about it that really annoys me is when someone says, "So your REAL name is Sarah," or "why do you want to go by your middle name?" (as if I named myself). I, like everyone else in the world (except for Peekaboo Street), was named by my parents (who both go by their middle names). They decided which name I would be called. I had no say in it.
It's really not that confusing or weird if you think about it for about 2 minutes.
Posted by christin at June 17, 2003 11:34 AM | TrackBackAll five of my brothers go by their middle names.
Posted by: jon amos at June 17, 2003 12:30 PMWrenn is actually Tabitha Wrenn. She doesn't seem like a "Tabitha" to me at all, she's all "Wrenn". If I could go back, I'd probably just name her Wrenn, so she wouldn't grow up to be as bitter and jaded about first names as you are. . .
Hee Hee :)
I go by both names and drop my last name...it's just so common. I'm still praying I don't marry someone with the last name of Brown. I introduce myself as Zoe to some people, and Lucy to others. Now, the Jones kids added AL to the list. So I go by three names. Go figure. My preference is Zoe, but it always gets mangled and reduced to one syllable, or the first syllable gets all the attention, when it's really the second one that needs it. Sorry! Too much coffee this morning.
Posted by: lucyzoe at June 17, 2003 12:53 PMi think you are the weirdest freak i have ever met.
Posted by: Uncle Josh at June 17, 2003 01:42 PMI knew a family of 5 girls all withOUT middle names. Just first and last. Now they are all married, so I guess their maiden name counts.
Posted by: Jeannette at June 17, 2003 04:20 PMAs another person well known by my middle name, I hear you. (Afterall, we've had this conversation before.) That "real name" thing always irked me too. My name is David Aaron. Aaron is just as real as David.
BTW "Peekaboo" is actually spelled "Picabo."
Posted by: Sweet Fancy Moses at June 18, 2003 12:08 AMThe going-by-the-middle-name-thing is far more common in the south. I am sure it is people from weird other regions who make the biggest deal out of it.
Posted by: kristen at June 18, 2003 09:22 AMI once knew a family with three girls who ALL had the same middle name. Now THAT would have been confusing!
Posted by: LisaAnn at June 18, 2003 10:08 AMSometimes people refer to me as James Deacon. That's fine; it's an understandable mistake. What's annoying is when I inform them of their mistake and they still persist.
Posted by: Deacon Blues at June 18, 2003 02:09 PMNot only do all of Jon's brothers go by their middle names, but he, his sister, and one of his brothers all have the same middle name which also happens to be his mother's maiden name. How's that for confusing?
Posted by: hollie at June 18, 2003 08:53 PMI think going by your middle name can be quite a convenience. For instance, My father's name is Troy and his father's and his father's and my name is Troy as well. So when I was young I went by Bart a shorten version of my middle name "Barton" so things wouldn't get confusing. Know that I'm older I go by Troy, mainly because Bart sounds kinda childish. My children(Lord-willing I have some) will have two or three middle names to choose from so we will all be happy.
Posted by: svenska at June 19, 2003 02:10 PMWell I find it kind of odd that my parents had 8 kids and we are all named by our first name. I think I even asked my mom about it one time and she told me that it's too confussing when you go to school. But we never went to school ??
Posted by: Lacey at June 19, 2003 03:33 PMI went to school with a girl named Erin Crista Marie Carolyn Mayo Ebersberger (I think). It's been about 20 years since I've said her name. She went by Erin.
That sounds like something Troy would want to name his kids.
Posted by: Christin at June 23, 2003 09:17 AMI also answer to my middle name and it has always annoyed me to no end when people ruin my name. I also have a last name that isn't pronounced the way that it is spelled. All of this confusing nonsense was started by my parents on the day of my birth. People tend to get extremely rude about it. I have not only had the types of reactions that you guys have mentioned but I have also gotten much worse reactions. People have given me dirty looks and treated me as if I'm too stupid to know which names that I prefer to use. One guy in a job interview talked to me as if he wanted to slap my face. One guy lied to me about whether or not he put my my middle name into the rental car company computer. The whole fifth grade class lied to a subsitute teacher about which name that I used on a daily basis. While that subsistitute teacher was polite to me about this, there have been a few teachers who were rude about it. One idiotic, rude sales clerk asked me if the reason why my parents did this to me was because of the possiblity that they didn't want me. I tell people that I'm legally required to use an alias when I have to fill out legal documents.
I don't have any children because I don't want any kids. However, if I had any children, then I would never do this to them because it is insane. It is an unwanted and unneeded nuisance. In fact, it is a complete pain in the neck and parents who do this to their children are insane. A better way to name your children is to do the following: A man is named Michael Alan King and his son is named Phillip Michael King. While the son is technically named after his father, the son answers to Phillip and this avoids confusion between them both inside the home and outside the home. The kid's name on legal documents is listed as Phillip Michael King and everyone assumes that the kid is called Phillip. What is confusing about doing it this way? It sure sounds logical to me.
Who was this guy called "Uncle Josh" referring to when he called someone a weird freak? "Uncle Josh" is being a jerk and an a-hole.
Posted by: Elaine at December 16, 2003 06:01 PMHe was joking.
Posted by: C hristin at December 16, 2003 07:09 PMI'm glad that he was joking. Your comment that this middle name thing is a southern USA thing proves that there are more stupid, dingbat southern parents who don't know what they are doing when they name a child. I actually think that parents in other regions of the country have paid attention to what the child will have to do when they leave their home and deal with the real world. Have southern parents never filled out a legal document in their entire lives? Were the southern parents drunk on alcohol or under the influence of illegal drugs when they did this? Are the southern parents dyslexic and/or illiterate? By the way, I live in the south.
Posted by: Elaine at December 17, 2003 09:09 AMWow. You're really upset about this! While it is an occasional annoyance, I'm not bitter with my parents (or anyone else in the south) about it.
Posted by: Christin at December 17, 2003 09:56 AMMy birth certificate says "London Isabel Mercedes Mirella Hoffman." I go by Isi or Merche (short for Isabel & Mercedes)--i'm glad my parents left me with four names to choose from, although it's kinda weird when my mom gets ticked at me and calls me by my entire name like it's one word
Posted by: Isi? at January 2, 2004 05:00 PMI have a question for you Isi? How on earth do you get to put your entire name on your legal documents? There isn't enough room for four given names in addition to a last name on any legal document that I have ever seen in my entire life and I'm 42 years old. In fact, most forms don't even allow you to put more than one middle initial on them. The USA isn't used to people having more than one middle name and this creates a problem for people like you. It seems to me that your parents gave you too many names. I wouldn't want to do that to a child but I'm also childfree by choice.
Posted by: Elaine at January 9, 2004 12:02 PM